The Heart of The Book

I have been doing book signings, festivals, and other events to promote Potter’s Wheel. They have been very interesting and informative.

When I explain that, even though the novel is a court room drama, it is written about love and the search for relationships, the response has been quite solid.

Women especially are intrigued by that premise. For the most part, they have no idea what men feel.

My basic premise is that contrary to popular belief, men are more sensitive than women. They are simply trained not to show it by our culture. This repression is one of the causes of relationship dysfunctions, and the lop-sided amount of violence in our society (and in most societies).

If you have any opinions or feelings on this or any other aspect of relationships, please write to me or make a comment. I would like to get some serious discussions started her.

Until the next time,

Chuck

Copyright 2006 Charles E. Rickard All Rights Reserved

Save Money, Get a Great Deal!

Potter’s Wheel (one man’s search for love… and the truth) is now available from almost every online book merchant and most book stores world-wide that have computer connections to the main distributor.

With the coming holidays, it would make a great gift, and you can save money on coin purchases.

If you buy either a hardback or a soft cover version and send me a copy of the receipt, you will receive $10 off any purchase of $50 or more on WCSdeals.com.

You can purchase the paperback version directly from WCSdeals.com for delivery in the U.S., for $19.95 ($16.95 + $3.00 S&H).

More information about the novel is available on my Potter’s Wheel website, or email me at chuck@wcsdeals.com.

For discussions on the novel, relationships and other interesting topics, go to the Potter’s Wheel Blog.

Thanks,

Chuck
Copyright 2006 Charles E. Rickard All Rights Reserved

"Big Love" & Polygamy

I have been watching HBO’s “Big Love’. It is a story about a man with three wives, i.e. polygamy. It is very interesting and recommended watching.

The statement I will make here will probably offend my conservative friends and liberal enemies alike. I believe that any two… or more consenting adults have the right to form any union (marriage) that they feel is appropriate for them.

Yes, gay & lesbian marriage is fine, as is polygamy and polyandry.

You can make jokes about how homosexual marriage partners have the same rights to be miserable as straight couples, and unhappy in divorce and straights, but that just isn’t the point. As we go through this lifetime, we have the inalienable right to try and find happiness in any relationship we can, as long as it doesn’t hurt any of the partners.

The only reason I can think people have been against polygamy is that men have historically made the laws, governmental and canon. If it were allowed many of these men would never have marriages or families. This might not be such a bad idea since many of them are such losers and bad guys. Maybe the genetic pool would be a lot cleaner since most women are very savvy and would innately go for the best, even if it meant sharing.

More next time.

Chuck

Copyright 2006 Charles E. Rickard All Rights Reserved

Dancing is Sharing

My son is a ballroom dancer and competitor in dance sports. He is only 10 years old and has been placing in 1st or 2nd place since last year.

I only bring this up because I was just at a showcase in which he and his partner performed. In between segments of the event, there were free dance as they call it where anyone can dance. The place was packed. People of all ages were there dancing their hearts out.

I took lessons a few years ago, before I married his mother. One of the reasons was to have an activity that I could do pretty much as long as I could walk around. I see couples in the eighties moving across the dance floor and being totally involved. Sure, they don’t do it the way they did when they were younger, but they were participating and enjoying themselves. What more could you ask?

Most importantly they were sharing an activity that both liked. This is the key. Ballroom dancing is just one, but it is a great one. And, this is why we plan to start doing it in the very near future.

Chuck

Copyright 2006 Charles E. Rickard All Rights Reserved

Potter's Wheel: The Novel

As I stated in the introduction, I am restarting this blog for several reasons. One is I hope that eventually many of you will read Potter's Wheel so that we can discuss it and the relationship issues in it.

For more information on it go to the Potter's Wheel Website and take a look.

Chuck

Copyright 2006 Charles E. Rickard All Rights Reserved

What a Man Looks For?

The books say that a man subconsciously looks for a woman that will give him a strong child. Women think that he just wants sex.

I've got news for you. Most men want a companion, a lover (and yes a lot of sex, don't fight it enjoy it), and someone to share the pitfalls and triumphs of everyday life.

The most important thing a woman can do for a healthy relationship is make sure that the man feels important. Most women instinctively put children and home far above a man in the hierarchy of relationship needs. This is a very big mistake.

In the movie "The Good Son", the mother said to her son, "Don't make me choose between your father and you. I must choose your father." If every woman felt this way, things would certainly be different.

This is not to say that is the way to handle a pathological situation, but in the normal course of events. Fathers are too often made to feel less than needed and reserved for punishment duties.

Remember children grow up and leave the nest. If she wants someone there when they do, make sure your man feels needed for more than financial support.

Chuck

Copyright 2006 Charles E. Rickard All Rights Reserved

A New Start

I know you haven’t heard from me in a long time. The reason is I got a little depressed. I thought it would be a lot easier to get people to read my book than it has been.

The feedback from those who have read it has been overwhelming. I know it would help men understand their feelings about relationships, assist women in comprehending their men, and aid both species in recognizing their mutual needs.

I am restarting this blog for the purpose of discussing relationships more so than promoting my novel, maybe both. I feel that it is important if we as sensitive humans are going to get any happiness out of life.

I hope you will join me and add to the discussion wherever possible.

I have deleted the postings that were directly related to the making of the book so there would be more room for discussion.

Chuck

Copyright 2006 Charles E. Rickard All Rights Reserved